Wednesday, 14 February 2018

Relationship Goals 💑🏾 (Part 1)

Couple With Heart, Type-6Couple With Heart, Type-3Couple With Heart, Type-4

I am not too sure if #relationshipgoals are still a popular hashtag but, I will use it when speaking about the couple I will be referring to in this post. The story of Isaac and Rebekah is an example of allowing God to write your love story. The story of the pair can be found in Genesis 24. There is so much I could write about the pair but as usually I plan to only refer to some aspects of their love story. The story of Isaac and Rebekah is one that is timeless and has many lesson for us during this time. I hope in some way we can apply some of the lessons brought to the forefront in this post.
Before entering a relationship, when seeking advise it is best to do so from those who are wiser, older and have the fear of God. ‘’Those who tend to be younger feel they need not the counsel of those more experienced. However, this should not be the case.  Take God and your God-fearing parents into your counsel, young friends. Pray over the matter.’’ AH p.73.1
From the start of the story we see the involvement of Abraham (Isaac’s god-fearing father) and his servant who acted as another god-fearing parent. Both these males were involved in selecting a wife for Isaac. The text informs us that Isaac was forty. Even though he would be regarded as mature, he saw the need to involve his father in his love life (Genesis 24: 1-3).   It could be suggested, he understood marriage would impact his life and his life to come so it was wise to get advice from those who understood the sanctity of marriage.   ‘How much greater caution should be exercised in entering the marriage relation--a relation which affects future generations and the future life?’- AH p.72
One of Abraham’s requests for his future daughter in law, was that she was not from the heathen nation he was in.  ‘’Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? – 2nd Corinthians 6:14 King James Version (KJV). When selecting a spouse, it is imperative that they are of the same faith. I am very aware there are many who choose spouses who are not of the same faith. However, if we really want to honour God then we are go with one who has the same beliefs.
A few years back a video went viral of a grandmother who gave advise on how to select a partner. One thing that stood out for me was the emphasis on compatibility. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”. If you have conflicting ideas when it comes to your fundamental values (e.g. faith) then it is best to depart ways.  
It may sound extreme but just think of how many marriages have gone to ruins due to being yoked to the wrong person. I must add, you can be of the same faith and still be unequally yoked! You may not agree 100 percent on every matter. However, there should be a level of willing to compromise but not at the expense of dishonouring God.
It could be suggested that Abraham knew if his son was to marry a woman from where he resided, there would be a serious conflict of interest that could have an impact on Isaac and the future generation of Israel. The later is illustrated in the story of Samson and Delilah (

Your potential spouse may not be fully ‘there’, they may need to be fixed around the edges. If this is the case but they have the same faith and have a willing to learn then it may be worth investing your time.  However, do not thing you are to become Mr or Miss fix it. You just sow seeds of encouragement. It is God who will convert a person. If there is potential it is worth perusing it. Pray on it. 

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Thursday, 8 February 2018

Practical Ways to Save Money

 Practical Ways to Save Money

Each year we spend loads on stuff we do not need money. Money is squandered and the squandering results in regrets and questions.  In this post I am going to outline a few easy yet practical way on how to save money.

“…Gather up the fragments that remain, that nothing be lost….” - John 6:12

View money differently. If more of us saw the value of money we may be more inclined to save a lot more. Money is never distributed equally, this is due to factors such as capitalism, monopolies and meritocracies. Those of us who have access to a consistent and healthy income should see our income as a gift that should be appreciated. Begin to see money as a means to help you reach certain goals, gives access to cultural experiences and could be used to help others. Once we begin to see money as a tool that gives as admission to different avenues that may be closed otherwise we should be aiming to save and not squander.

Get a piggy Bank.  This is a very old school way of saving money but, is very practical. A friend of mine cashed up all the coppers coins she had saved in her piggy bank and it was enough for her to buy some new clothes.
 This year my sister and I have decided to take part in the “52-week money challenge”. This involves saving the money based on what week you are in. For example, for the first week of the year you save £1 and so on until week 52. However, we do not plan to do so chronologically and believe where possible to start saving higher amounts first or to save for what we can afford for that week.
Another saving challenge would be “Save the singles” I will be write a post on this in future so stay tuned

“Money is not necessarily a curse; it is of high value because if rightly appropriated, it can do good in the salvation of souls, in blessing others who are poorer than ourselves” – Ellen G White

Stop buying what you do not need! Prior to writing this post I had asked a mate how they went about saving money. Their response was to the effect of “stop spending.’’ Stop spending on things you do not need. I recall a Youtuber saying before you go out to buy something consider whether you really need this item. “Do I £60 need this jacket?” If you cannot fully justify buying an item for a certain price, then it is best to put it down.We often prioritise our wants over our needs in doing so find ourselves with fewer pounds to spend.

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Saturday, 13 January 2018

Modern day Gideon.

Modern day Gideon.

Years back I recall a religious sect referring to Gideon (in the Bible) in song. The reference noted something to the effect of not wanting to be like Gideon. A vague statement to those who may have not come across the story of Gideon in the Bible. The story which I will be referring to can be found in Judges the sixth chapter. I strongly encourage you to read this before, so you better understand this piece.

In this article, I will briefly touch on certain aspects of the character of Gideon, and how many of us would be regarded as modern day “Gideons” as we to have similar character traits.

Upon reading Judges six, the themes of fear and doubt are very apparent in Gideon’s character. Fear and doubt are crippling to a Christian’s character. Both fear and doubt are a result of a lack of faith, they stunt our spiritual growth and suggest that God is not able.
We are to co-operate with One who knows no failure. We should not talk of our own weakness and inability. This is a manifest distrust of God, a denial of His word. When we murmur because of our burdens, or refuse the responsibilities He calls upon us to bear, we are virtually saying that He is a hard master, that He requires what He has not given us power to do. (COL p. 363)

The trials that we often face, are because God knows that we are able cope if we trust in him. 
Although, this is the case we do not see this but may believe we are being punished or that someone else should have this challenge. Our lips may repeatedly murmur “Lord why me?” In stead of this let us ask “Lord help me to cope in this difficult situation, help me to find the way of escape that you have promised to provide”

''There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.'' 1 Corinthians 10:13 King James Version (KJV)

Sometimes this way of escape may not be so obvious. However, the way of escape always involves trusting and obeying the Lord.  

“Trust and obey, for there’s no other way
to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.”

In the story of Gideon, the Lord had chosen him to liberate the children of Israel from the obsession from the Midianites (See Judges 6:6-8,11-12,14-16). Though the Lord repeatedly reminds Gideon that he had been selected to do this great task, he still doubted and gave excuses why he believed he was not fit for the task.
“… Oh my Lord, wherewith shall I save Israel? behold, my family is poor in Manasseh, and I am the
least in my father's house.”
Like Gideon we to ask why or how even when something has been made clear. We look at our immediate situations and tend to not think of what God can do through us. Gideon tried to use the excuse of being poor and the youngest in his home to justify why he felt God could not use him to save Israel.  What excuses do you make? What are some of the limitations you have labelled yourself with?
God continuously looks at humanity not at what they are but what they could be. God sees so much potential in us! Rather than see some of the potential he sees in us,  we dress ourselves with limitation and devalue ourselves through doubt. Though this may be the case God is still there to build our faith like he did Gideon.

During his uncertainty God sent an angel to remind him of his capability through Christ. “And the angel of the Lord appeared unto him, and said unto him, The Lord is with thee, thou mighty man of valour.

Is it possible we showcase fear and doubt in situations because we must go it alone? Let us remember that God will not leave nor forsake us. Regardless of how difficult a situation is, God is there every step of the way “The Lord is with thee”

As followers of Christ, we must get to the point in our lives whereby, though we may not feel that things are possible but, believe because God has said it is so!  

'' But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. ''

Hebrews 11:6King James Version (KJV)

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Wednesday, 3 January 2018

Senegalese Salad

Senegalese Salad 

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2018. To start the year off, I thought I would begin with a super quick salad recipe. I think this salad will be good for those doing veganuary. Veganuary. Involves following a vegan based diet (eating no animals or animal products) for the month of January. I have been  following a vegan diet  for a couple of years now and it is so refreshing to see how many are opting for a more plant based diet! Just how God intended (Genesis 1:29)

This salad is one of my favourites, it is super easy and I got most of the inspiration during my time in Senegal (hence the name). Shout out to Sister L! Most of the ingredients can be found in most climates and are very affordable.

I hope to share more Vegan recipes on my blog this year. I have a few here and here. Let me know if you try this salad.

You will need:

One whole cucumber

2-3 Tomatoes

1 clove of garlic

3 Table spoons of lemon juice

A handful of rocket (optional)

1) Chop cucumber and Tomatoes into small cubes and add into a bowl
2) Finely dice garlic or use garlic press and add to cucumbers and tomatoes

3) Mix well until well combined
4) Tear rocket and place in the bowl.
5) Drizzle lemon juice on top of rocket

6) Mix well
7) Once all the ingredients are well combined, the salad is ready to serve.

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Friday, 29 December 2017

Profession and Performance

Profession and Performance

Romans 10:1 Brethren, my heart desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved.

This post will touch on profession and performance in Christendom. I hope to establish professing one's belief is not enough. The profession needs to be evidenced in one's life.

2nd Timothy 3:5+7 "Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away...Ever learning, and never able to come to a knowledge of the truth"

“As the storm approaches, a large class who have professed faith in the third angel's message, but have not been sanctified through obedience to the truth, abandon their position and join the ranks of the opposition.” – EGW, 1911, p. 608

What is truth?
John17:17 "Sanctify them through thy truth thy: word is truth"

What Word?
John 1:1 " In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

KJV John 1:14 "And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.
15 John bare witness of him, and cried, saying, This was he of whom I spake, He that cometh after me is preferred before me: for he was before me.
16 And of his fulness have all we received, and grace for grace.
17 For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.”

Jesus is the Word and through him we become sanctified, made perfect.

If everyone only had to profess that they were a believer of Christ then all would confidentially be on the road that leads heavenwards. However, with profession comes performance.
Too many of us proclaim to be followers of Christ but, our lives are far from our profession of faith.

"Ever learning, and never able to come to a knowledge of the truth"
Many stay in the proclamation stage of their walk. Why? They have not come to a knowledge of truth. They dwell not in the Word but on the outskirts. The Lord says it is through him that we are sanctified. How is one to be sanctified if they refuse to do their part?

"Man must work under the guidance of the divine hand; for unless God co-operates with him, there will be no increase.  Human power cannot cease the seed to sown to spring into life. But there can be no reaping unless the human hand acts its part in the sowing of the seed" - Review and Herald Dec 8th1896

Christianity is not an inactive experienced where those who are Christians are simply moulded to be like Christ because, of some acknowledgement of Christ.

KJV 1 John 2:4-5
4 He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
5 But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.

Once we profess (Acts 16:31 KJV) that Jesus is Lord we are then to obey

There are those who profess holiness, who declare that they are wholly the Lord's, who claim a right to the promises of God, while refusing to render obedience to His commandments. These transgressors of the law claim everything that is promised to the children of God; but this is presumption on their part, for John tells us that true love for God will be revealed in obedience to all His commandments. It is not enough to believe the theory of truth, to make a profession of faith in Christ, to believe that Jesus is no impostor, and that the religion of the Bible is no cunningly devised fable. “He that saith, I know Him, and keepeth not His commandments,” John wrote, “is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoso keepeth His word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in Him.” “He that keepeth His commandments dwelleth in Him, and He in him.” 1 John 2:4, 5; 3:24. AA 562.3 - AA 562.3

John mentioned those who claim to know Christ and keep not his commandments are deceiving themselves. One of the fundamentals of the Christian faith is the acceptance of the ten commandments. Exodus 20:3-17 is where we find the commandments in their entirety. However, there are references before Exodus 20! Please read some of the scriptures in the brackets (Genesis 2:2-3, Exodus 16:22-30)

As those who profess the faith, we are to check ourselves daily. Let us ask ourselves “is my life reflecting God’s law?” “Would God be happy with this act?” “Should someone awaiting the second advent of Christ partake in such?” The prophet of the Lord notes;
“Could the veil which separates the visible from the invisible world be swept back, and the children of men behold an angel recording every word and deed, which they must meet again in the judgment, how many words that are daily uttered would remain unspoken, how many deeds would remain undone.” EGW, 1888, p, 487

Every man's work passes in review before God and is registered for faithfulness or unfaithfulness. Opposite each name in the books of heaven is entered with terrible exactness every wrong word, every selfish act, every unfulfilled duty, and every secret sin, with every artful dissembling. Heaven-sent warnings or reproofs neglected, wasted moments, unimproved opportunities, the influence exerted for good or for evil, with its far-reaching results, all are chronicled by the recording angel.” Ibid, p.482

The latter reference to “unimproved opportunities” connotes God expects us to act upon the opportunities he gives us. We are not to waste any chance to improve ourselves so we look more like him. Let us pray for more opportunities and to embrace the methods God has chosen for us to prefect our character.

A Christian is to radiant Christ so others will be attracted to come to Christ. How will we attract people to the saviour if our lives are debased and discouraging? There must be a clear distinction between the believer and non-believer. Why would a non-believer want to join the army of Christ if there is no difference between those who accept Christ and those who do not? 

“For the name of God is blasphemed among the gentile through you, as it is written”- Romans 2:24

A great majority are not mirroring the saviour, because of this the name of God is used callously amongst the ‘gentiles’. The children of God do not put a high regard on the things of God, so why should the unbelieving?
Will we continue to have a form of Godliness or will we be co labourers with Christ and act our part to hasten his second advent?

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Wednesday, 25 October 2017

N.E.W.S.T.A.R.T And Natural Hair

NEWSTART and Natural hair.

As women, we take pleasure in doing our hair. Getting your hair done or “making your hair” is very much part of womanhood. It is a chance to experiment, learn new skills and impart knowledge. Although this is all good and well, many women of African descent are destroying their tresses at the expense of beauty.
“Pure air, sunlight, abstemiousness, rest, exercise, proper diet, the use of water, trust in divine power—these are the true remedies”- EGW MH 130
In this text, I hope to share some ways on how to maintain afro textured hair by referring to NEWSTART.  NEWSTART is an acronym that highlights eight health laws which, promote a holistic lifestyle. They are as followed:

Trust in God

Obtaining good health is primarily based on good nutrition. If the body lacks good nutrition then this will affect our health, including our hair health. The state of our skin, hair and nails indicate how we are doing internally. If we care for our insides then this will reflect on the outside.
 A plant based diet which includes; vegetables, fruits, nuts, grains and legumes is the best kind we can give to our body and our hair.
Grains, fruits, nuts, and vegetables constitute the diet chosen for us by our Creator. These foods, prepared in as simple and natural a manner as possible, are the most healthful and nourishing” – EGW, MH 296
“And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat. – Genesis 1:29
Our hair is made up of biotin and keratin the best way to enhance our hair heath is by including foods that are rich in the vitamins mentioned in our diet.  Below I will list a few foods that are rich with these vitamins. If these foods are properly incorporated into our diet along with the other health laws we will see great improvements!
Foods good for healthy hair: Citrus fruits, dark leafy greens, nuts, carrots and avocado.

Whilst being on my natural hair journey, I have noticed that there is an obsession with hair growth. If your hair is healthy then then growth will come. Exercise does not only have an influence on our body but our hair. A way to aid with hair growth and health is to increase your exercise. Exercise stimulates blood flow to the scalp, this then encourages hair growth and adds moisture to the hair which is vital for afro textured hair. 
Each day try to do some form of exercise that will increase your heart rate. Running, jogging, brisk walking, lifting… all these and more assists with blood flow.
“Walking is preferable to riding or driving, for it brings more of the muscles into exercise. The lungs are forced into healthy action, since it is impossible to walk briskly without inflating them.” – EGW, MH 243.

“In health and in sickness, pure water is one of heaven’s choicest blessings” -EGW MH 237
Water is an essential to the body and it should be the same for the hair. Once I began to apply water or water based products to my hair, I saw an immense change. If you must take anything from this text it is this; water is vital for healthy hair. For a very long time black woman have been told that water is the enemy. If water brings life and helps grow other organism, why would this be different for our hair?
Afro texture hair tends to be quite dry, this is because of our strands. Everyone has what is known as sebum on the scalp. This is an oil that is naturally present. This oil helps with the moisture of our hair. For Some hair types, it is easier for the sebum to travel down the strand. However, this is not the case for Afro textured. To help with this it encouraged to manually moisturise afro hair. The best moisturise for the hair is water.   
Daily or a minimum of four times a week, spray your hair with water and apply an oil (olive oil, coconut oil, almond, castor or any carrier oil) to seal in the moisture. For added moisture or to help retain the moisture add a cream/ butter, such a coco butter or shea butter. After this braid or twist that section.

“Vigor declines as years advance, leaving less vitality with which to resist unhealthful influences; hence the greater necessity for the aged to have plenty of sunlight, and fresh, pure air.” – EGW MH 278
Too much exposure to sunlight can cause the hair to be dry. However, the sun can be used effectively to enhance the health of afro textured hair.
In spray bottle mix water and glycerine of equal amounts. Leave some space in the bottle so when you shake the bottle they can mixed together. Once the combination is mixed spray onto your hair. This combination is a humectant and along with expose to the sun will encourage moisture to your hair.
Another effective method that involves the sun is deep conditioning. I am lucky that I have a hair steamer. This is a way I keep my hair moisturised. However, those who do not have a hair streamer

can use the heat from the sun for the same effect. Apply a deep conditioner to your hair, place a plastic cap or a carry bag on your head and go outside for 10- 30 mins where the sun can penetrate the cap.
Sunlight used effectively helps bring moisture to the hair. Why not give some the methods ago?  

March 2016 

It is not uncommon to see many women with ‘snatched edges’. This is when their hairlines have receded due to over manipulation of the hair. When it comes to styling do not over do it! Many elaborate hair styles are the result of ‘snatched edges’, opt for more loose hairstyles and ones that will not stress the hair.
Those who have lost their hair due to over manipulation, here are a few remedies you can try.
1)Melt ½ a cup of shea butter, pour ¼ of olive oil, add 10- 20 drops of tea tree oil and half a teaspoon of menthol crystals (optional) into a container. Mix together. Allow the mixture to solidify before applying to the problem area. Before applying to the area mist some water to the section and massage the area.
2) Pour 200 ml of castor oil into a hair applicator bottle. Add some dried mint leaves or 10- 20 drops of tea tree oil. For the best result allow the mixture to sit for 2 – 4 weeks before use. Before applying to the are mist some water to the section and then massage the mixture.
And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible.”

Let your hair breath! Our scalp is made up of follicles that are like the pores on our body. If the follicles are clogged with dirt they this makes it difficult for our hair to breathe. It is advised to wash your afro textured hair often, every 7- 10 days. In doing so you allow your hair to breathe.
Although you want your hair to breathe at times you may need to shade your hair from the air, especially the ends. This is known as protective styling. Protective styling is where you protect or limit the exposure of your strands to the elements in the air. Why should I protective style? It is a great way to maintain length and keep your hair moisturised.
Leave your hair alone! Over manipulation is killing our strands! When you take your hair down, give it a few days even weeks before you do it again. Over stressing the hair has resulted in unnecessary hair damage.
Aim to style your hair in a way that does not involve a lot of manipulation. Styles such as mini twist (with your real hair) or braids, cornrows or buns. These and more allow you hair to rest as they don’t require a lot of effort to maintain.
Trust God  
I recall a youtuber who mentioned that prayer was part of her achieving healthy and longer hair. I think this is something for all to incorporate.  Our faith in God is not just limited to expecting big things but even the smaller things  “Pray without ceasing” 1 Thessalonians 5:17
Do not stress when it comes to achieving healthy tresses, trust that if you are consistent when it comes to looking after your hair, health and length is evitable.    

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Friday, 6 October 2017

Christian Behaviour

Christian Behaviour

This text will be looks at a few aspects of Christian behaviour, how we can apply such characteristics in our lives.

Romans 12:11 ‘Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord.
Diligence for the Christian is mandatory. God himself has given us an example of how to work effectively. If we are to look at the story of creation (Genesis chapter 1 and 2). Each day God had a set task which he accomplished. In like manner, we too should have a task that we are aim for daily. Our days should not be idle but of diligence.  Like our father it should be evidenced what we have done for that day.
How can we apply the former? Every evening or morning write down realistic goals you would like to achieve for the day. Pray over these goals and work at best to attain these aims. Do not feel bad if you are unable to achieve all that you have set out to do, rather celebrate the tasks completed and work to attain the others.
“Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work nor dervice, nor knowledge, nor wisdom in the grave, whither thou goest.” Ecclesiastes 9:10
“Whatever our work, God is honoured by wholehearted, cheerful service. He is pleased when we take up our duties with the gratitude, rejoicing that we are accounted worthy to be labourers with Him.” COL 363.4. Regardless of the task at hand we are to have an eagerness when approaching it, for this pleases the Lord.
There will be times where one will find themselves in a job or having to do a task they find least favourable. In such instances, we are to dwell upon the benefits of the task.  If we are finding it hard to see benefits then let us remember this; ‘’And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily as to the Lord, and not unto men’’ Colossians 3:23. We are to have a fervent approach as this pleases God.

2 Corinthians 9:6+7
“But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully,
Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.”
If you were to enter a church and ask the congregation, “who is looking forward to the second coming of Jesus?” A good majority would raise their hands or exclaim an expression of agreement. However, ask that same group to give 2% of their earrings to support a missionary who is wanting to share the gospel to hasten the advent of Christ. You are likely to be met with silence.
There is a blessing in giving, especially when it comes to furthering the work of God.  When the topic of giving is brought up in a church setting, we typically think of donating money to support some cause. This is not always the case. There is something more valuable than money and without it money could not be made. This is called time.  In giving up our time to serve others we too can experience the abundance referenced in the above verses.
This current generation does not need to leave the comfort of their home to give. You can donate to a cause via mobile, send words of encouragement via email or invite friends to your home for a clothes swap. Giving does not have to involve money but investing your time to help someone other than yourself.

Forgiveness is one of the fundamental aspects of Christianity. Part of Christ dying on the cross for us was to an act of forgiveness. “…He bare the sin of many and made intercession for the transgressors”- Isaiah 53:12. “If we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” - 1 John 1:9.  
God is ready to pardon us, to forgive every speck of sin in our lives. However, we must believe this. We are not to think God only forgives in part but in whole. “He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.” Micah 7:19
None are so sinful that they cannot find strength, purity, and righteousness in Jesus, who died for them. He is waiting to strip them of their garments stained and polluted with sin, and to put upon them the white robes of righteousness; He bids them live and not die. SC 52.3 - (Steps To Christ pg. 52)
Forgiveness does not only deal with our relationship with others but also with ourselves. The same way we are able through Christ to forgive others let us also forgive ourselves!
An elder in the church I attended in Senegal, often noted Christ has taken our sins and placed them at the foot of the cross. However, we too often go back to the foot of the cross to take back the sins Christ has liberated us from! There may be several reasons for this. One being we do not believe our sins have been forgiven.
 “Do not wait to feel that you are made whole, but say, I believe it; it is so, not because I feel it, but because God has promised.” God has promised to forgive us so we are to believe this. Forgive yourself for God has forgiven you.

Let us practise diligence, the act of giving and forgiveness these things are part of what makes up Christian behaviour.