Wednesday, 14 February 2018

Relationship Goals 💑🏾 (Part 1)

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I am not too sure if #relationshipgoals are still a popular hashtag but, I will use it when speaking about the couple I will be referring to in this post. The story of Isaac and Rebekah is an example of allowing God to write your love story. The story of the pair can be found in Genesis 24. There is so much I could write about the pair but as usually I plan to only refer to some aspects of their love story. The story of Isaac and Rebekah is one that is timeless and has many lesson for us during this time. I hope in some way we can apply some of the lessons brought to the forefront in this post.
Before entering a relationship, when seeking advise it is best to do so from those who are wiser, older and have the fear of God. ‘’Those who tend to be younger feel they need not the counsel of those more experienced. However, this should not be the case.  Take God and your God-fearing parents into your counsel, young friends. Pray over the matter.’’ AH p.73.1
From the start of the story we see the involvement of Abraham (Isaac’s god-fearing father) and his servant who acted as another god-fearing parent. Both these males were involved in selecting a wife for Isaac. The text informs us that Isaac was forty. Even though he would be regarded as mature, he saw the need to involve his father in his love life (Genesis 24: 1-3).   It could be suggested, he understood marriage would impact his life and his life to come so it was wise to get advice from those who understood the sanctity of marriage.   ‘How much greater caution should be exercised in entering the marriage relation--a relation which affects future generations and the future life?’- AH p.72
One of Abraham’s requests for his future daughter in law, was that she was not from the heathen nation he was in.  ‘’Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? – 2nd Corinthians 6:14 King James Version (KJV). When selecting a spouse, it is imperative that they are of the same faith. I am very aware there are many who choose spouses who are not of the same faith. However, if we really want to honour God then we are go with one who has the same beliefs.
A few years back a video went viral of a grandmother who gave advise on how to select a partner. One thing that stood out for me was the emphasis on compatibility. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”. If you have conflicting ideas when it comes to your fundamental values (e.g. faith) then it is best to depart ways.  
It may sound extreme but just think of how many marriages have gone to ruins due to being yoked to the wrong person. I must add, you can be of the same faith and still be unequally yoked! You may not agree 100 percent on every matter. However, there should be a level of willing to compromise but not at the expense of dishonouring God.
It could be suggested that Abraham knew if his son was to marry a woman from where he resided, there would be a serious conflict of interest that could have an impact on Isaac and the future generation of Israel. The later is illustrated in the story of Samson and Delilah (

Your potential spouse may not be fully ‘there’, they may need to be fixed around the edges. If this is the case but they have the same faith and have a willing to learn then it may be worth investing your time.  However, do not thing you are to become Mr or Miss fix it. You just sow seeds of encouragement. It is God who will convert a person. If there is potential it is worth perusing it. Pray on it. 

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